Tuesday, November 22, 2011

Prayers of Thanksgiving

I remember the good night prayer from my childhood:  “Now I lay me down to sleep, I pray the Lord my soul to keep.  Watch me through the dark of night, wake me when the day is bright.  God bless Mommy, Daddy, Kathy and Ricky; Gram and Grandpop and Granny; Aunt Jean, Uncle Fred and Gail; MomMom and PopPop; God bless everybody.  Make Laurie be a good girl.  Amen.”    Everyone once in a while, I silently recite the prayer as I lay in bed at night.  I guess I’m still hoping for help in the good girl department!

Daily prayers have always been a priority for me.  I pray to God for support and guidance for myself and others in need; I lift up prayers of praise for the goodness in my life and the goodness I see around me.  I pray to end the suffering of those who are ill or suffering the evils of the world.  And I pray to God with thanks for the many blessings in my life:  my husband, my children, my family, my friends, my home, my job, my belongings, and the many opportunities I have for pleasure.

Gary and I will spend part of the Thanksgiving holiday weekend in New Orleans with our children.  It’s been several months since the four of us have been together and we are really looking forward to being with them.  Dear friends will host the holiday meal.  The forecast calls for a sunny, 70 degree day.  I will have many prayers of thanks to lift on Thanksgiving night!


Later in the weekend we will fly to the East coast and spend time with Delaware family.  I haven’t seen my parents or sister in many, many months, and even though it will be a short visit, it will be special.  It’s amazing how much food, talk, and laughter we’ll manage to fit in during our 24 hours together.  Prayers of praise!

We’ll wrap up our East coast visit at the Philadelphia Eagles game vs. the New England Patriots.  I can’t even talk about the Eagles as the topic of their season is far too depressing, especially for a holiday weekend.  I am just praying for the season to be over!

Throughout the holiday weekend Gary’s Dad will be on my mind.  For a long time he has been living with lung cancer and we know he doesn’t have many days left in this life.  He is a strong, kind, generous, faithful man and I have been lifting prayers of thanks for knowing him most of my life, and for having him as a father-in-law.  Throughout his illness he has prayed for God’s will in his life.  I too, pray for God’s will in Dad's life, and that he endures no suffering.

Be safe this Thanksgiving holiday, whether you are traveling across the country or a short distance away from home.  If you are going out to a restaurant, to someone’s home, cooking the turkey, or picking it up from the grocery store, may your meal be bountiful and filling, to your stomach and your heart.  Don’t let tensions or old family feuds interfere with your day.  Enjoy the Macy’s Day parade, the football games, or play a board game with the kids.  Remember in prayer those who have to work on Thanksgiving –  hospital workers, police and fire personnel, and the retail workers who will greet the early bird Christmas shoppers.

To my family and friends near and far, Happy Thanksgiving.  God Bless everybody.

Just sayin’.

Laurie

Tuesday, November 15, 2011

In the Dog House - Please

Late last week I picked up my car from the service center at the car dealership.  The new car showroom, the retail area, the waiting area and the service center check-in and cashier are all in the same building.  Everything in the dealership building was shiny and new.  Of course there were the slick cars ready to be driven out of the show room!  Snacks and beverages were available for potential buyers and customers.  Various jackets and shirts and caps bearing the logo of the car brand were displayed and available for purchase.  Everyone who worked there was smiling and helpful!   One of the sales staff offered to let me test drive a new car – he could get me a good price on my existing car and put me in a brand new one for next to nothing!!  The service cashier reviewed with me all the work done on my car – I’m all set for the Minnesota winter!  There weren’t too many customers in the showroom at that time, but there were several customers milling about the service area, picking up and dropping off cars.  Two of the customers were four legged – a large black lab was sprawled out in the waiting area, and another small brown and white furry dog was running around underneath tables and chairs in the waiting area.

I bet some of you have a mental picture of those dogs and are thinking “aahh, how cute.”  Hmm.  Right away I will admit I am not a “dog person.”  Those who know me well know I’m more of a “crazy cat lady.”  I have a vague memory of a beagle named Holly who was a pet when I was a toddler, but she must have gone to live on a farm (and not my grandparents’ farm!)  Other than my short relationship with Holly, I’ve never had a dog for a pet, and have never wanted one.  When I was 7 or 8 years old, Duke the German shepherd who lived across the street viciously attacked me.  Fortunately it was cold weather season and I managed to escape his hold by slipping out of my winter coat.  But the broken skin on my arms and legs and the rabies shot is still a vivid memory, and the remaining scars are a regular reminder of that scary incident.  Sorry dog lovers, I’m not fan of the species.  So I am always more than a little appalled when others bring their dog – or two –to places of businesses.  Why do dog owners think it’s ok to do this?
  
I don’t dislike dogs in general.  Reggie next door is an old German shepherd (who looks very much like Duke).  I like Reggie.  He never barks at me, he follows the kids around the cul-de-sac when they are playing, and he often lies in the grass chewing his bone.  Occasionally he’ll wander over to our deck or garage, I’ll pet him for a few minutes and then he’ll go home.  There’s Brody up the street who is a beautiful golden retriever.  He barks a lot, but as soon as I say his name, he lets me pet him.  I think Brody would show the crooks where the silver is kept!  Tanner and Chloe are sibling bull dogs a few doors down.  They are a little too hyper for my liking, but are generally well behaved.  All that said, I don’t want to run into Reggie, Brody, Tanner or Chloe anywhere I conduct my consumer affairs.

Why do some feel it is socially acceptable have a dog tag-along no matter the destination?  Reality TV personalities carry their dogs around in expensive little bags – Paris Hilton, New York Housewife Jill Zarin and Bethanny Frankel of Skinny Girl fame, to name a few.  But those with dogs I’ve run into are not Reality TV stars!  My brother’s neighbor has as pet pig – Norman the Potbelly Pig.  Norman wouldn’t fit in a cute little bag, but he does have a leash.  Will we soon be running into Norman and others like him at the grocery store, dry cleaners, and pharmacy on Saturday mornings?

I would never bring Nola or Beignet, my extremely loveable and adorable cats, with me to the mall, drugstore, car dealership, or to a boutique in San Francisco, another place where I recently encountered a furry customer.  Common Sense (note:  capitalization intentional) tells me it’s likely there would be other customers at these places of business who wouldn’t appreciate my feline friends as much as I do.   No shoes, no shirts, no food, no drinks.  And please, no pets.

Just sayin’.

Laurie

Wednesday, November 2, 2011

Well Done. Go Thou in Peace.

This past weekend the United States Military Academy at West Point Class of 1986 celebrated its 25th reunion.   During the reunion Gary and his classmates, particularly those in Company B3 (the Bandits) renewed friendships, reminisced about their cadet years and revived their class spirit, which is so unique among West Point graduates.

Gary’s time at West Point contributed to the formation of his deepest values.  Duty.  Honor.  Country.  A Cadet will not lie, cheat or steal or tolerate those who do (the Cadet Honor Code).  During reunion weekend I learned that a cadet is introduced to the Honor Code 16 minutes into the 47 month West Point experience.  The Class of 1986 Motto is Courage Never Quits.  The values Gary formed at West Point direct every decision he faces.  Those values served him during his military career.  He has brought those values to our marriage, has taught them to our children, and he leads with those values in the workplace.  If you know Gary, you know that West Point is at the core of the man he is. 

West Point is truly one of my favorite places.  The grounds of West Point are stunningly beautiful, located about 50 miles north of New York City, overlooking the Hudson River.  The post itself is rich with history.  I love to just enjoy the beauty of the grounds, the stately buildings, the statues and memorials, and the military officers and cadets.   I especially love all of the “Beat Navy” signs!  I’m so proud to be married to a West Point grad who had a very successful military career.  I’m also proud of the military accomplishments of his classmates, and our friends and family.  For me, each visit to West Point brings about a renewed sense of security that despite all of the troubles and challenges our world faces, the USA is indeed the greatest and safest country in the world because of our military. 

The demographics of the Class of 2015 (this year’s first year class) are very similar to Gary’s class, which entered the Academy in 1982.  The class of 2015 had 13,953 applications, 4344 congressional nominations, 2554 qualified candidates, and admitted 1249 cadets.  The majority of those admitted were high school Valedictorians, class presidents, team captains, and varsity letter winners, usually in more than one sport.  West Point retains 79-80% of each plebe (freshman) class.  This is astronomically high compared to other colleges.

A day in the life of a West Point cadet has also changed little since 1982.   Cadet Basic Training begins on R (Reception) Day in June.  The new cadets report to West Point and after a brief welcome are given 90 seconds (literally 90 seconds) to say good-bye to their family before they begin life as a new West Point cadet.  Within 8 hours the cadet chain of command will have in-processed approximately 1200 new cadets, who will have received vaccinations, gear, clothing, and haircuts.  They will have begun to learn to stand, march and behave like a cadet.  The day ends with the new cadets receiving the cadet oath. In just one day the cadets begin the transition from high school students to Army soldiers. 

The West Point school day begins at 0600, and breakfast and formation is at 07:05.  Taps are played at 2300, and lights out at 2400.  During the day there is a rigorous class schedule, and specific times for required intramural or intercollegiate sports, meals, and study hours.  Not a minute is wasted.    Specific uniforms are required for all activities, even recreation. 

West Point is the equivalent of a fully funded Ivy League education.  Each cadet receives not only a top-notch education, but also what is widely recognized as the best leadership training in the world.   Upon graduation, a cadet is commissioned as a Second Lieutenant in the U.S. Army.  And since 2001, every cadet who enters West Point does so knowing he or she will go to war upon graduation.

On R Day in 1982, the class of 1986 had 1271 male cadets and 149 female cadets, for a total of 1420 cadets.  The class of 1986 graduated 1006 cadets.  There are presently 125 men and 14 women from the class of 1986 still on active duty serving in the U.S. Army; two of those men and one woman are General Officers, many are Colonels.  About 20 active duty members were at the reunion; ten were not able to attend as they are presently deployed in Afghanistan.  36 members of the class of 1986 have children who are or who were West Point cadets and several class members have sons and daughters who are deployed.  During the reunion, I heard many mentions of children hoping to attend West Point.   The proud tradition of The Long Gray Line will continue.

23 members of the class of 1986 have passed away.  Some died from cancer and other illnesses. One died in a car accident while deployed overseas; another died with his family in a tragic ski accident while vacationing in Austria.  A few were killed while performing training missions. The first Army officer killed in Operation Desert Storm was a 1986 graduate.  The only West Point graduate killed in the World Trade Center on 9/11 was a 1986 graduate, and the highest ranking officer – a Colonel -  killed in Afghanistan to date was one of Gary’s classmates and close friend.  Gary and “Johnny Mac” played soccer at West Point; they attended flight school, were deployed overseas and played soccer in Germany together.  Johnny Mac’s death in Kabul hit Gary particularly hard.  The Class of 1986 paid tribute to their fallen classmates who served our Country faithfully during a moving and emotional reunion memorial service.   Duty.  Honor.  Country. 

Today there are 48,717 living graduates of the United States Military Academy.  All told, there have been 68,196 West Point grads.   During the reunion, the Class of 1986 presented the Superintendent of West Point with a Class Gift of $1,000,000, raised over a 5 year period.   In 2010, 18,256 individuals donated $35 million to the West Point Superintendent’s Fund.  The Superintendent decides the best use of these unrestricted gifts, dividing the funds among all the priorities of the Academy, including academics, clubs, sports, etc.  A current priority is the sustainment, renovation and modernization of the facilities (for example, urinals still exist in the ladies’ barracks!).   Unrestricted funds are used for enrichment of higher education.  An example is the Center for Combating Terrorism.  These enrichment activities are not funded by the U.S. Army but are essential for the education of our cadets and future military leaders.

The leadership qualities developed in a West Point cadet and matured in our military officers are evident in the endeavors many in the Class of 1986 have embarked upon following their military careers.  Among Gary’s classmates:  the CEO of 7-11 (you might have seen him on an episode of Undercover Boss); a Congressman; a couple of actors (the Sopranos); several West Point professors; the COO of the Philadelphia Inquirer newspaper; as well as ministers, doctors, bankers (not just Gary!), advertising executives (think Mad Men), and leaders of businesses such as Sherwin Williams, Nike, Frito-Lay, and many other well known corporations.

The United States Military Academy began the tradition of class rings, and I think every grad at the reunion was wearing his/hers.  Most West Point grads wear their rings regularly, if not all the time.  Many males wear their class ring on their left hand, in front of their wedding ring (Gary does this sometimes).

No West Point visit is complete without experiencing Army football, which has some of the greatest traditions in all of college football.  Unfortunately, the unusual October snowstorm forced us out of New York earlier than planned, and we weren’t at the Army game in the falling snow when they defeated Fordham 55-0!!!  However, we have been to many Army football games so I shall describe the experience as if we had been able to stay for the game during reunion weekend.

Every Army game day begins with the Cadet Review and March on The Plain, the parade field at the Academy.   The Plain is flat, in stark contrast to the rest of the Academy grounds, which are very hilly.   Just about all 4000 cadets march in full dress uniform for review by the USMA Superintendent (“The Supe”), his distinguished guests, and many spectators.  The march instills discipline and order with the Corps of Cadets and fosters esprit de corps and camaraderie.  The rifle team performs, the sword team performs, and the band plays. This parade of West Point cadets is one of the most impressive and moving military sights I’ve ever seen.     

The football teams plays in Michie (pronounced Mikey) Stadium, named for Dennis Michie who organized and coached the first West Point football team, in 1890.  The playing field is named for Earl “Red” Blaik, Army’s head coach from 1941-1958 who led the cadets to a national title in 1944 and 1945.  Cadet attendance at football games is mandatory and the Corps stands for the entire game.  The game ball is usually brought to the field by the Black Knights parachute team.   What a way to start the game!  Plebes do pushups for every point scored by the Black Knights.   The rabble rousers are also an important part of the Army football experience.  Dressed in unique West Point outfits, the rabble rousers hype the crowd and get the fans in the stands cheering.

Despite the spirit of Army football, the team doesn’t appear on any BCS lists.  Don’t judge Army football by its W-L record.   By the time they graduation, every single West Point cadet will have the knowledge, skill, strength and leadership to face any opponent in combat. As newly commissioned Second Lieutenants they will lead their soldiers out of harms way in remote places very far from home.

During the reunion class meeting the Superintendent’s office gave the class an update on what’s happening at the Academy.  In addition to the Honor Code, West Point now has a Respect Code, to educate and create awareness among the cadets about sexual harassment, assault prevention, and ethic, ethnic, cultural and diversity issues.   The Supe’s office didn’t spend much time talking about the Respect Code, as it is a fairly new initiative at West Point.  My own suspicion is that the Respect Code has something to do with the military’s recent (good) riddance of the “Don’t Ask Don’t Tell” policy and allowing gays and lesbians to openly serve in the military.  I hope the Respect Code is successful.

I was disappointed by a few comments I overhead about one classmate who attended the reunion with her same sex partner; and another off-handed but insensitive comment about gay marriage.  I hope the Respect Code will help the next generation of cadets to all have attitudes of acceptance and inclusiveness.  There was also talk of 3 or 4 classmates who haven’t been seen or heard from in some time – women and men.  I wondered if the experiences of those individuals at West Point and/or in the military wasn’t as positive as it was for everyone else at the reunion.  Could these women perhaps have been sexually harassed, or worse, during their years at West Point?  The entering class of 1982 was only the 6th class of women at the Academy.  I suspect there were senior officers at that time who were resentful of the female presence. Are there men from the Class of 1986 who have been absent from reunion gatherings because they are resentful of having to keep their true selves secret for so many years?

Overall, the reunion weekend was a huge success and a fabulous time.  Despite 25 years, distance, deployments and distinguished careers as General, Colonels and business leaders, Gary and the Bandits fell right back into step.  They still call each other names like Cecil, and The Narrator, Bucket Head, Wizzy, and Mooky.  And they talked and laughed about their “Beast Barrack” experiences, and who could and couldn’t pass the SAMI inspections (Saturday A.M. Inspection – a white glove room inspection).

There is always one story that comes up when Gary is with his West Point buddies. A form of punishments for cadets who commit an infraction is “walking the area.”  Cadets are “awarded” walking tours as punishment for infractions.  Being late to class or not passing a room inspection might result in a 5 hour walking tour, while more severe misconduct can result in upwards of 60-80 hours.  The tours are “walked off” by wearing the dress uniform and walking back and forth in a designated area.  Cadets who walk more than 100 hours during their time at West Point are affectionately known as Century Men.   Gary is a DOUBLE Century Man – a legend at West Point.    He never had to walk the area for an infraction such as not passing a room inspection, or his uniform not being appropriate.   He had just three infractions, but they were big ones, (code: beer).   Today’s cadets ractually look at Gary in awe when they find out he’s a “Double Century Man!”

As I mentioned, the unusual October snow forced us out of New York earlier than we had planned.  But it was a fabulous 25th reunion weekend, and we’ll look forward to seeing all of our West Point friends again soon.

Until then, well done.  Go thou in peace.

Just sayin’.

Laurie